I didn’t want to write about this. I really didn’t. I usually try and avoid the negative stories and talk about the good things that happen for dads and daughters, but I just had to comment on this. Lindsay Lohan’s dad backs her Playboy spread. Look, I’m not the most up on internet stuff, but I know what Playboy is and only very large boulders could keep you from hearing about Lohan’s misadventures.
Let me just state this simply: this is not right. A dad shouldn’t applaud his daughter reducing herself to physical eye candy for monetary gain. He shouldn’t see a situation like this and feel like things are okay. I know this is a slippery slope, but let’s look ourselves in the face here. Stop what you’re doing and truly answer this: Do you want your daughter to be in Playboy? Simple “yes” or “no”.
Now, I know that’s somewhat subjective and as parents we back our kids, but look at what we’re doing right now. We’re taking the time to invest in our daughters, to show them that they are loved, that they are capable of anything, and that they have something meaningful to do in this world. We’re not teaching them to be strippers, we’re teaching them to be teachers, scientists, moms, historians, and artists.
I know that Lohan and her dad have had a tough relationship, but even Chris Rock that said, “They don’t grade fathers, but if your daughter’s a stripper, you [messed] up!”. And that’s coming from Chris Rock! These are all pretty harsh words for this blog, but I hope you’ll forgive me. I’m really tired of things like this in the media portraying messed up relationships as the norm. We can avoid it just by being a good dad. Being there for her. Spending one on one time with her. Showing her she’s loved. In the end, it’s the most important job we’ll do.
Guys, go out and do it. Not because you’re trying to avoid some future consequence but because it’s the right thing to do here and now, for her. Don’t look at that news story and just think “that’s messed up” while your daughter plays on the floor by herself. Don’t sit back and wait for 15 years to fly by and wonder where it all went. At ANY AGE, she’s looking for time with her dad. Get involved; spend the time with her; go out and do it.
Thanks for reading and thanks for being a dad…